Strategies to Prevent Difficulties with a Collaborative Divorce
Divorces do not have to be a bitter fight until the end between you and your spouse.
In collaborative divorces, husbands and wives can work mutually to put an end to their marriages.
Collaborative divorces are supposed to be under somewhat friendly terms by meeting together in a more comfortable and open atmosphere, as opposed to battling in an open courtroom. Although both parties are still represented by divorce lawyers, it is much less costly than litigating a divorce in front of a judge. Furthermore, ex-spouses are a lot more likely to remain on friendlier and on more cordial terms, which is especially favorable when young children are involved.
Avoiding any Barricades to a Successful Collaborative Divorce
Even with collaborative divorces, to work to their full potential, there are a few barricades that might have to be removed.
- It is necessary to try and anticipate potential problem areas by thinking back to your marriage. Consider how you and your spouse dealt with conflicts throughout your relationship. At what point did it problems become argumentative or aggressive? Prior to commencing the collaborative divorce process, you and your spouse must promise to be more open communicators, peace makers, compromisers and problem solvers to prevent replicating the same problems from the past.
- Do not ignore any warning signs that your spouse is getting irritated or upset. You should pay close attention to his or her body language. Also, be mindful of your own body language. Most likely you know your spouse, as well as yourself, well enough to realize when it is the right time to discontinue a discussion before it becomes too heated or off topic.
- If at any point your spouse loses his or her temper, never reciprocate the anger. Two angry spouses will only make the situation more difficult. Always think carefully before responding. During breaks, you can take a walk or do whatever it takes to release some stress. Never forget that any arguments will only hurt the situation and possibly lose any progress already made. The purpose of every meeting with your spouse should be to productively find solutions to prior conflicts.
- Try not to let your spouse derail your agenda. He or she may be bitter about happenings in the marriage. If so, they are likely to make offensive comments or accusations. It is crucial that you do not let it bother you. In cases where your spouse tries to bait you, instead of going off your instinct and responding negatively, take a break. If your spouse gets overly hostile, you may need to end the collaborative session and continue at a later date.
- During the collaborative process, it would be wise to consult with your lawyer, therapist, a close friend or family member before attending meetings. Having and utilizing a solid support system will greatly assist you in smart decision making and achieving your objectives. Additionally, remind yourself the reasons why you decided to go through the collaborative divorce process, rather than a traditional one, whether it be for your children or to save money.
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Donna Hung Law Group can assist you in choosing the right kind of divorce. Whether or not a collaborative divorce will work for you depends on the circumstances of your marriage. We will advise you the best approach and represent all of your objectives.
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